The Game Of Life

Turn your life into a game to acquire wisdom and experience, rewriting the laws it is built upon.

A child's dream: "I wish I could play for ever, no matter the game, just to play". Games free us from stress, give us energy, make us feel special, younger, often more dreamy-minded and more trustful in the future we build with our own hands. What would children do without games? What would grown-ups do?

All of us, although we refuse to openly admit it, we love games, fun, cheerfulness. We see an action movie – a concentrated cat-and-mouse game. We see a comedy – a comic game that comedians perform. And, adage: everybody acts. Self-willed or not, we all become part of the game of life, even if we observe the rules or not. However, there are two questions that cannot be avoided: What is the stake? and Are we going to be all winners?

Years ago, during college, I often used to meet my classmates and my best friends on the week-ends. If the day was warm and beautiful, we used to play ping-pong, tennis or football, if the day was cold and foul, we used to stay indoors and play cards or Monopoly.

Once, while we were playing, my friend's niece stared at us from the arm chair in the left of the room, stone-steel. She had an open, voluminous, black-brown book in boards in her arms. At a gaze, one could see the author and the name of the work: "Jules Verne – The fur country". Even so, she was not reading at all. She could not bend upon her book because of us. Because, how could you read a book when, all around you, a full crowd of people is having fun with an interesting and interactive game? Like any other kid, she wanted to take part of the game, not to feel as captive as in a bird cage, uninvolved in the show of the game.

She was gazing at us: every move we were making, the way we were rolling the dice, moving the pawns, dealing the money, the chips, what we were talking, what we were saying, how we were amusing ourselves. You could read astonishment on her face, as well as an indescribable joy, like when you are waiting in line to get ice-cream, but, deep inside, I think she felt sad. She was by-passed by everybody. She would have liked to play along, roll the dice, cash the money.

In her green-blue eyes, you could easily read the words: "I would like to play along with you, guys, please, challenge me, too, to enter the game. Please, I'm so begging you…"

Do you behave contrary to the compromise of submitting yourself to a harsh judgment what is considered to be the effect of a lasting disproportion between the value gained by capturing one’s attention and the result of the listening experience?

Just as a parent must always educate his children of the lessons he has learned by himself, thus passing knowledge from generation to generation and to become wiser - so the leader needs to effectively discipline his emotions, thinking and practices from the lessons learned from others, and the more he will practice his ability of understanding, the more beautiful he would shape his character, and by that more will grow the value of his leadership.

Each of us can have a lesser or greater influence on others. Sometimes, we do not even realize the importance of our actions, the way we have fun or perform our activities. However, people contemplate us, studying us curious, close by or from a distance, willingly or not.

Are people convinced or impressed by your "playing"? If so, do you encourage them to participate? Do you know how to evaluate their feelings and desires? Are you particularly focusing yourself on providing indicators that would continually develop your evolution? Is attitude your key factor that makes people to join your game? Do you think you need to rethink your orientation to people? What do you think is the first step you should do in this regard?

Capturing someone’s attention is the beginning of the process of animation, while the result of the listening experience is associated with the emergence of a form of response to the satisfaction of an emotional need.

To behave contrary to the compromise of submitting yourself to a harsh judgment what is considered to be the effect of a lasting disproportion between the value gained by capturing one’s attention and the result of the listening experience is to record your presence in people’s lives without convincing yourself of your purpose among them.

Do you try to produce liveliness through everything you do, when you do not know what decision to take in the context of knowledge transfer?

At home, at work, on the football ground, outside on a walk, everywhere or almost all over around us, there are eyes that inspect all our moves. If the way we perform our activities is interactive, helpful and dynamic, if it creates trust, earnestness, joy and animation, everyone around us, will care to join us, to enter our "game".

Hence, if we want to create a positive impact on other people's lives, then we have to struggle on producing liveliness and enthusiasm through our activities, through our passions, through our self-devotion and our struggle towards the field in which we activate, by trying to spread joy and happiness around us.

As a leader you must possess the ability to create trust and to vivify people around you. You cannot lead a team, to guide it towards the achievement of some clear and precise goals if you are not able to animate its members, to stimulate them, to give them the spirit they certainly need in order to implement your plans.

Through the transfer of knowledge and wisdom, especially to the younger generation, which is an essential part of learning, as well as the exercise of any of the functions of the intellect, it can get to some sort of reversal of roles that creates a comfortable mood of good mood. The listener becomes a pole of information, and the connoisseur becomes the effect of a state of grace and reflection on the inner being.

Not knowing what decision to take in the context of knowledge transfer is similar to being an explorer of oceans who has never finished his journey. The decision to promote an understanding is not the same as the understanding man gains of his inner world. Does this understanding allow man to no longer fear what he feels inside? Does it prove the lack of reality of beliefs about himself that make him suffer?

The liveliness you produce must be as stable as the promotion of knowledge that reveals you in others.

Conclusion: Life is a game that sometimes makes you smile, sometimes makes you sad, has written and unwritten rules which you have the duty to investigate, to accept, to upgrade or even change them if it doesn't suit you. Is a game in which the participation is compulsory if you do not want to be labeled as abnormal and put into a parallel world, like that of the sick people. Is a game from which you occasionally win or lose, but from which you acquire wisdom and experience - these being the great benefits of the game of life.